The role of the father in Islam is to bring up his children in a good way. Islam has given the father many rights. This includes associating the children with the father's lineage giving it more power than the mother.
Raising children is seen as a way of charity so the father must know the methods of education and its principles, principles of morals and methods of indoctrination. If he is not aware of it, he must learn the matters of religion.
The father who leaves his children without guidance or education is a warp in his instinct and is negligent. He will be asked about his role on the Day of Resurrection because children are a trust from Allah and he must preserve it.
Islam urged the fathers to be fair. Numan ibn Basheer (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:
“My father gave me a gift of some of his wealth, but my mother,"
Amrah bint Rawahah, said, ‘I will not approve of it until you ask the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) to bear witness to it.’
So my father went to the Prophet (peace be upon him) to ask him to bear witness to the gift.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said to him,
‘Have you done the same for all of your children?’
He said, ‘No.’
He said, ‘Fear Allah and treat your children justly.’
So my father came back and took back that gift.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Islam has mentioned the great place and respect children should have for parents who have Islamic responsibilities in raising children.
Looking after the father is a form of charity.
Allah says in the Quran (Ibn Katheer):
"And your Lord has Qadaa [decreed] that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor reprimand them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young."
[Quran, Surah Israa, Verse 23 - 24]
From here, we conclude that the father has a high position in Islam, even after his death, the son can pray for him. In a hadith, it says:
"When a human being dies all his action comes to an end except in one of three ways: A continuing act of charity, a useful contribution to knowledge and a dutiful child who prays for him.”
[Muslim, Abu Dawood, Al-Nasai and others].
Dear friends, we have briefly touched on the role of the father in Islam, I hope you like it.
Next week we will discuss the relationship between the Prophets and their fathers.